I was recently with a friend scouring the Craigslist erotic ads for shits and giggles. He was navigating thru numerous ads commenting aloud when suddenly he got quiet. I walked over to see what hot piece of ass had him so mesmerized and when I saw the 6 body, dick and ass pics I knew exactly why his mouth was dropped in awe. This dude was packaged right. But still I commented “I wouldn’t trust it. There’s no face pic. He’s got to be ugly.” I then went on to comment on his $150 price and how whores need to adjust their prices due to the recession.
I noticed my friend still had not chimed in yet. I looked over and observed his mood had changed. He now looked sort of sullen. I asked him what was wrong. He said “Toy, that’s Cobie.”. ….Cobie was his boyfriend of 8 months whom he was deeply in love with. “Are you sure?” I asked. He said “Look at that couch he’s laying on. That’s my couch. Look at the curtains. The plant in the background. That’s my damn apartment.” And I had to agree it was. He went on speaking a little softer, a surge of pathos in his voice “Besides I know my mans body.” For the first time in a while I was speechless. But my friend had a lot to say and he said it all as he kicked his boyfriend out that night.
I’ve had plenty of friends catch their boyfriends whoring on sites like adam4adam, men4now, BGC etc. In most of the cases the guilty party says something reasonable and wins their lover back. Going forward, those same guys knew to cheat a little more discreetly and all was well. However, somehow whoring for monetary gain seemed a lot more serious and unforgiving. The knife in the back just seems a lot more brutal. To me a whore is a whore but we (society) don’t view it that way. Whoring for free = Acceptable. Whoring for money= Jail Time. Just like how prostitutes get stigmatized with a bad name while the men who purchase them remain relatively unscathed.
I’m not advocating anything. I’m just observing what seems to be a universal double standard. I defend anybody’s right to do with their body what they want and to be honest if I was a bottom my goodies would only go to the suitor with the fattest wallet. So wouldn’t that kind of be like prostitution? Most would see it as me just having high standards but I say the lines are blurry. And as a side note I’ve never understood why bottoms fuck with broke men. I couldn’t fathom getting fucked on the regular by a man who couldn’t do anything for me. But I digress.
Normally when friends ask for advise regarding their whoring boyfriends they catch via unscrupulous text messages, Hook-Up Sites, or just sloppy cheating I suggest weighing everything out as a whole before making a decision. Regarding this boyfriend who was whoring for money I wasn’t as inclined to suggest working it out. But I think I’m having second thoughts.
Maybe him charging a fee should garner him a little more respect and those who whore for simple sexual gratification should be more frowned upon. The only difference between the two is the exchange of currency. Perhaps either way it goes everybody is paying a price. Realistically nothing in life is free. Even in religion that offering plate is passed around so many times they might as well just charge a cover at the door. Therefore I'm now thinking his is the lesser crime. Maybe the better whore fucks for a fee rather than fucking for free, and the rest of the world has it all wrong.
10 COMMENTS:
Great post.
I do believe this is the first time I've read AND agreed with you.
I not a gold digger but I ain't fucking with no broke ass mother fuckers.
The bottom line, pun intended, is that my puss is a perishable commodity.
Its not going to be given away and ruined for free.
Its one of the few advantages I have in a social game full of psychotic delusional queers with dicks that stay hard till the day they die thanks to the magic of science.
If they want the goodies they gotta be able to compensate me for that little bit of elasticity I'm bound to lose.
Interesting blog post. Caught in this position is always shady. HOpe it works out.
i agree...i do not think it's worse than cheating for free. cheating is cheating.
if most of us communicate with our partner, we may realize that we don't have to cheat to get fucked on the side. if you want to fuck or get fucked on the side and your man doesn't agree, maybe he isn't the man for you.
you can find any type of relationship you want out there. you will probably find there's more alot more men out there that has the same desires as you if you can just be honest with him, and more importantly...yourself.
keep it 100!
I agree, as well. However, I've learned that having sex for money also results in a decrease in other, possibly more important, standards. Sex workers can't really discriminate as long as the paper's straight...but then again, there's some guys that trick unconditionally for free!
You may have opened a can of worms with this one, Toy! That's why I love you...
Cogent you a mess...LOL.
But uhm yeah...I have to agree. If I'm going to be a ho I might as well get some compensation (because that is a job, whether people want to admit it or not).
Anywho, Oh my god if I caught my man whoring around (for free or for pay)I would have to end the relationship for HIS personal safety. I would seriously lace his birthday cake with cyanide or something.
I feel sorry for ole boy. Sad that his lover had to catch him in the act. And like Gee said if most brothers where upfront and honest then it might not go down. But Trick'n is Trick whether you got it or not.
This is a thought provoking one right here. I'm not sure which side to choose. I know one thing, I feel sorry for your friend to find out that way. Poor guy.
I don't see what the issue is. Ultimately, I agree with your friend's decision. I don't care if you're cheating for monetary gain, sexual gratification or for a bowl of captain crunch ... if we're together and you're doing anything sexually with your body without me, I need to know. And for money?!? If the issue was just about money, then that's something you need to communicate to me ... we can work shit out together.
So, I would feel like there is a communication issue, a trust issue and a cheating issue. That's insurmountable, I think ... unless this was your line of work and I knew it BEFORE the relationship. If this was your line of work before the relationship and I didn't know? psssshhhhh ...
And for your boy to find it on the Web site? That stings. Out you go.
To each, his own... Right?
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