Maya Angelou once said "When people tell you who they are believe them.”
He’s sexy. His swag is ridiculous. I would undoubtedly be the envy of every gay man, straight female and sexually confused adolescent if I locked him down, but I didn’t. He’s a hoe, and in so many words he unapologetically told me so himself.
Over cocktails & marijuana he told me he’d had sex 6 times in the last 3 months and all 6 encounters were 3somes where he was the only bottom. Now to me that translates into you had 6 trains ran on you in the last 3 months. The only thing I could think was ‘WOW’. I was happy he felt comfortable enough to be open and I respected his honesty but this was way too much information to hear on a second date.
He had so much potential but there was nothing I could do with him. He’s like a 2009 Benz with 300k miles on it. I mean the Benz could be visually stunning and even knowing the miles you may still be seduced into a test drive but no man in his right mind would ever purchase it. I tried to rationalize it admitting to myself how much freer I’d feel being with someone so sexually uninhibited. Then the reality set in that I could really fall for him and I’m an aggressive, highly jealous narcissist. Our characteristics in combination would be a recipe for disaster waiting to happen.
I couldn’t appreciate a guy like him because he’s not what I’m looking for at this time. That being said, Different people can handle different things especially if both parties are upfront with their needs and wants. So if you want to wife a sexually uninhibited guy I’ll tell you how:
Self confidence is a must not a plus.
You have to be secure in yourself and what you bring to the table. Accusing him of cheating, going thru his cell, and smothering in this relationship is a deal breaker
Set Boundaries & Limitations.
Be aware this is not a conventional relationship, therefore both parties have to state what they can and can not deal with
Expect the unexpected.
Nothing will be “normal” in this relationship. You have to be open to whatever and maintain the ability to go with the flow.
Have a Fuck it attitude.
You have to careless what other people say or think. You are bound to hear stories about his past but it can’t bother you. Maybe he sucked everybody off in his high school band. Maybe he got fucked by random dudes in the back of the club. Whatever the case you have to take the news in stride and know everybody has a past.
Don’t ask. Don’t Tell.
Remember at all times it’s none of your business. Also, definitely don’t ask questions you aren’t prepared to hear the answers to.
Man Up.
Guys who are hoe’s usually are that way because they can’t find a man to make them want to settle down. If he loves you he will be loyal.
Check the time.
More than anything else a hoe must be ready to be a housewife. He must be ready to settle down. That’s why all the other rules are so important.
At the end of the day I'm a strong advocate of everybody living their life for themselves. Everyone has skeletons in their closet and everyone deserves to be loved for who they are when they are ultimately ready to settle down.
He had so much potential but there was nothing I could do with him. He’s like a 2009 Benz with 300k miles on it. I mean the Benz could be visually stunning and even knowing the miles you may still be seduced into a test drive but no man in his right mind would ever purchase it. I tried to rationalize it admitting to myself how much freer I’d feel being with someone so sexually uninhibited. Then the reality set in that I could really fall for him and I’m an aggressive, highly jealous narcissist. Our characteristics in combination would be a recipe for disaster waiting to happen.
I couldn’t appreciate a guy like him because he’s not what I’m looking for at this time. That being said, Different people can handle different things especially if both parties are upfront with their needs and wants. So if you want to wife a sexually uninhibited guy I’ll tell you how:
Self confidence is a must not a plus.
You have to be secure in yourself and what you bring to the table. Accusing him of cheating, going thru his cell, and smothering in this relationship is a deal breaker
Set Boundaries & Limitations.
Be aware this is not a conventional relationship, therefore both parties have to state what they can and can not deal with
Expect the unexpected.
Nothing will be “normal” in this relationship. You have to be open to whatever and maintain the ability to go with the flow.
Have a Fuck it attitude.
You have to careless what other people say or think. You are bound to hear stories about his past but it can’t bother you. Maybe he sucked everybody off in his high school band. Maybe he got fucked by random dudes in the back of the club. Whatever the case you have to take the news in stride and know everybody has a past.
Don’t ask. Don’t Tell.
Remember at all times it’s none of your business. Also, definitely don’t ask questions you aren’t prepared to hear the answers to.
Man Up.
Guys who are hoe’s usually are that way because they can’t find a man to make them want to settle down. If he loves you he will be loyal.
Check the time.
More than anything else a hoe must be ready to be a housewife. He must be ready to settle down. That’s why all the other rules are so important.
At the end of the day I'm a strong advocate of everybody living their life for themselves. Everyone has skeletons in their closet and everyone deserves to be loved for who they are when they are ultimately ready to settle down.
4 COMMENTS:
really nice post, but can you really think of any hoe you know who has been successfully turned into a wife?
Very nice post!
Isn't there a double standard here?
Undoubtedly what he admitted to makes him a hoe but if your going to pay to get into sex parties what does that make you?
I couldn't agree more though.
And I have the same question as Eduardo.
Most of these guys basically fuck themselves to death quite literally long before they can be captured and conquered.
Damn well i have a problem i use to be the prude in my group now over the years (from living in ATL and NYC and a bad break up) ive developed bad habits or whorish tendecies so when ur tryin to put yourself back in that mode of being with one guy how do u do that. For me from the 2 times this became a problem i liked the guy alot but i had the mentality of a single person and being that way for so long that was the way i thought and when i wanted somthing nothing stopped me so how do u condition urself to be faithful. Its seems so simple but its hard and im nowhere near ugly over weight or feminine in NYC so its very very very hard
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